We love because he first loved us.
- 1 John 4:19 (NIVUK)
Before we can truly love the way God calls us to love… we have to first learn how to receive His love.
Frances Chan teaches in his book Beloved that allowing ourselves to be loved by God means abandoning the need to prove our worth and instead resting in the secure, unchanging love He already has for us, a transformation that brings freedom and changes everything.
And honestly… that rings so true.
We’re really good at doing.
We’re pretty good at giving.
We’re even decent at serving.
But being still long enough to believe that we are fully loved—right where we are? That’s tough.
So many of us walk around carrying quiet shame and quiet regrets, the quiet reminders of all the ways we think we’ve failed.
We know God loves the world…
We just struggle to believe He loves us with that same depth and tenderness.
But Scripture is clear:
We don’t love God first.
He loved us first.
Before we cleaned up.
Before we figured things out.
Before we got it together.
Christmas proves that God didn’t wait for us to become worthy—He came because we weren’t.
And the truth is this:
Until we fully receive the love of God, we will always struggle to give the love of God.
Because you can’t pour out what you refuse to believe you truly have.
When we live loved, we love differently.
We forgive more freely.
We give more generously.
We judge less harshly.
We show up more consistently.
Love stops feeling like pressure… and starts feeling like overflow.
So today, maybe the bravest prayer isn’t “Lord, help me love better.”
Maybe it’s simply:
“Lord, help me believe that I am deeply, completely, and unconditionally loved.”
Because once that settles into your heart—
Everything else begins to change.
Daily Inspiration from the Bible